In order for someone to become an effective leader, he must possess and/ or attain a number of traits, habits, behaviors, experiences, expertise, integrity, attitude, etc.
The few that can master the combination of these necessities invariably become the best leaders. I have observed that effective leaders become winners in nearly all aspects, from their personalities and actions, to their results.
Lou Holtz said, “You were not born a winner, and you were not born a loser. You are what you make yourself be.” However, I observed certain specific areas that appear to consistently indicate the separation between winners and losers.
1. Winners always strive to make themselves an integral part of the solution. They do whatever needs to be done, from having a viable vision to establishing goals and a plan, to motivating others to both believe and “buy into” their vision as well as motivating followers to put forth additional effort.
Losers, on the other hand, never truly think outside the box, never assume personal responsibility, procrastinate, lack a viable vision, and possess a rather negative attitude. These individuals are losers because instead of being part of a solution, become an integral part of the problem itself.
2. Winners always assume personal responsibility. They believe that whatever may not go as anticipated or desired during their “watch” is their responsibility. President Harry Truman exemplified this with his famous, “The buck stops here.”
While winners assume responsibility, the losers resort to blaming others, and spend more time and energy covering up personal responsibility than addressing issues on a timely basis.
3. Winners understand that is essential to address issues on a timely basis. They are superb at analyzing situations, and have developed their decision making skills to a near art form.
Losers on the other hand are always fearful of making a decision, and look for ways to defer action so that someone else will be responsible. I have even observed individuals in leadership positions who purposely stalled in any way they could so that an important decision would occur after their tenure or term of office.
4. Leaders are always seeking ways to motivate both themselves and others. They understand that it is essential to effective leadership to have a real positive attitude.
They appreciate any assistance that anyone else gives them, and always makes an effort to thank these individuals. If someone does any job, they always thank and appreciate their efforts.
If someone tries and does a less than stellar job, they never blame that individual, but try to discuss the issue in a way that motivates the other person upward.
On the other hand, a loser expects people to help, and rarely appreciates the person. They may politely say thanks, but often they are empty words. Losers talk behind others backs, often are negative, and are also often back- stabbers and blamers.
Individuals have a choice whether to be a winner or loser. They must first decide and then take the viable action necessary. What often differentiates the winning leader from the losing leader is this attitude and the associated actions taken.
By Bryan Oliver